Planning your wedding day, while exhilarating and full of excitement, can also feel quite overwhelming at times. From setting the date and identifying a budget that will include every last detail, to communicating with vendors and guests, there’s a lot that goes into planning your special day. At Delamar, our expert team of planners works closely with couples, vendors, and partners to curate bespoke wedding experiences that far surpass your expectations (and that of your guests).
Whether you envision a wedding location that is traditional or trend-setting, festive or formal, intimate or grand scale, staying organized and keeping track of important dates and deadlines is the key to successful wedding planning. So, where to begin?
If you’re a newly engaged couple and have already flipped through some glossy magazines for inspiration, you may be deciding on a course of action to get things started. Here are some tried and true tips to kick off the planning of your special day:
From venue to vendors, to dinner menu and music, your budget will determine many of the decisions you make from this point forward. Be realistic – your union is just as important as your wedding day so be sure to start off your marriage on solid financial standing, rather than incurring wedding day debt. A few key considerations to make:
Weekends for popular venues fill up quickly, (especially at DELAMAR) so decide as early as possible on where you want to say “I Do.”. Choose a few ideal dates for your wedding and try to be flexible, if at all possible. This will help ensure you’re not constrained by dates when booking your favorite wedding venue and vendors. This will also allow you to potentially select dates that are more cost effective and within your budget.
When it comes to planning a wedding, organization is key. You will realize quickly that you and your partner can’t do it alone. Here are a few tips:
We all know that marriage is a testament to partnership so don’t feel the need to take on all of the planning alone. Consult with your partner every step of the way so you can create a wedding experience that you both will enjoy and that takes into consideration each one’s vision of the big day. Plus, planning is much more fun when you’re both making the decisions together and creating life-long memories and bonds along the way.
Planning a wedding may get overwhelming with the abundance of choices and options. If you can afford to, consider hiring a wedding planner to help guide you, keep you on track, coordinate with vendors, and relieve the stress that comes with planning your big day.
It’s more than likely that your friends and family would love to be involved in the family planning as well. Ask a few close family members and friends to help out whenever possible.
Wedding planning books include everything from interactive checklists, organization tools for budgets and timelines, and advice from wedding experts, to help you plan your wedding every step of the way.
There are also some great online tools and apps out there that can keep you organized:
You may have already pictured this in your mind but sit down with your partner and discuss what you both want your wedding to look like. Do you want it to be a large gala or a small, intimate affair? Traditional in feel or modern and luxe? Beachside or a Garden? What color(s) do you want? What elements do you want to incorporate into the wedding? Are there any special traditions you’d like to incorporate that will carry significance for the both of you?
Choose a Sunday and lay out your vision for this wedding with a vision board. This vision will help you to make essential decisions on your venue and location, guest lists, vendors, menus and everything else going forward. Be sure you know what you want for each of the following:
Selecting a wedding venue is one of (if not the most important steps) in planning a wedding. It sets the backdrop for all your wedding events, as well as the tone and theme. Here are a few considerations to make when researching venue options:
Once you’ve narrowed down your vendor choices, it’s time to lock one down. Check with the vendors for date availability and pick that one that works with your dates, budget and wedding theme.
Once you’ve booked the venue, it’s time to book other key vendors instrumental in making your special day a memorable one. Here is a vendor checklist to keep you on track:
Read every line of your vendor contacts carefully. Review every detail of any contracts with your wedding vendors, including date, location, times, deposits, fees, etc. Make sure it’s written correctly and address any issues upfront in order to protect yourself.
Sit down with your partner and close family members to put together a guest list of wedding guests. Based on your budget and the venue you choose, you may have to make cuts. Decide on whether or not plus-ones are invited and if parents can bring their young children.
Bridesmaids and groomsmen play an important part in your wedding. Not only will they be there to provide emotional support throughout your planning journey, but they will also be at the front lines at your wedding. Here are some tips to pick your bridesmaids and groomsmen.
Finding the perfect wedding dress is one of the best and overwhelming experiences. Here are a few tip:
Bridesmaids dresses can create drama, if you’re not careful with the dresses you choose.
While the bride and her bridesmaids usually are the spotlight on the big day, the groom and groomsmen’s attire is just as important. Choosing the right attire for the groom is a lot easier once you’ve considered some of the details, particularly, the season and time of day, the venue, and your wedding’s theme or style. A few tips:
Once the groom has selected his outfit, it’s time to dress the groomsmen. Here’s a few things to think about when deciding on your groomsmen’s attire:
Be cohesive. The groom and groomsmen don’t need to dress the same. But everyone should at least look cohesive and adhere to a dress code. The groomsmen wearing white suits will look odd next to a groom wearing a black tuxedo.
Whether you’re planning a wedding locally, or having a destination wedding, chances are your guests will need some place to stay. Consider the proximity to your wedding venue, amenities and price when booking a hotel block. If you’re having a wedding at the hotel, work with the venue managers to lock down room rates and discuss possible discounts for your guests.
A simple wedding website can help guests check out all the important details of your wedding, including important dates, times, locations, dress codes, registries, transportation, links to book lodging, and a day-of itinerary. Use your site to also link to your registry.
Creating a newlywed wish list is one of the most anticipated aspects of planning a wedding. Here are a few tips:
While engagement rings usually get most of the attention, don’t forget about your wedding bands. Shop around at local shops with your fiance to try out different styles and metals, and pick out the ones that you both love.
PS: If you haven’t already, consider getting an insurance policy for your engagement ring and wedding bands, or adding it to your existing policy if you have one.
In the midst of all of the wedding planning chaos, don’t forget to get your marriage license.
In most cases, you need to obtain a marriage license from your county clerk with a small fee. As long as you and your spouse meet the requirements for your state, your marriage license should be granted. After the ceremony, your officiant must file your marriage certificate with the applicable recording agency in your county. Once that is done, you will receive a certified copy of the marriage certificate.
Whether you envision a wedding location that is traditional or trendsetting, festive or formal, intimate or grand scale, we provide our guests with unlimited, yet highly curated options to create your perfect wedding day.
DELAMAR’s wedding venues are beautifully designed with everything you need for your special day. Our dedicated staff is expertly trained in cultivating bespoke wedding experiences that surpass our client’s expectations. Let our experienced catering team guide you through every detail of your special day, from the ceremony to the last dance.
We take great pride in being one of New England’s premier luxury boutique hotels. Our wedding amenities include: